Best Sex Positions After Menopause: A Guide

Written by: Camilla Jakobsson

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Time to read: 8 min


For many women, menopause can bring new challenges and questions regarding sex. One of the most common questions is the best sex positions after menopause. It's a valid concern, as menopause can significantly impact a woman's body and sex life. Fortunately, many sex positions can help keep pleasure and intimacy alive after menopause. This guide will discuss the best sex positions after menopause and how to make the most of them.


Understanding the Effects of Menopause on Sex


Menopause is a natural stage in a woman's life, marking the end of her reproductive years. While it may bring freedom from periods and pregnancy worries, it can also introduce a new set of challenges, especially when it comes to sex. As hormonal changes occur, women may experience a decrease in estrogen levels, leading to vaginal dryness, decreased libido, and changes in sexual sensation. 


Understanding the effects of menopause on sex is crucial for navigating this new chapter in your life. By familiarizing yourself with the changes happening in your body, you can better prepare for and address any challenges. Remember, you are not alone in this journey.


Open and honest communication with your partner is vital during this time. Share your experiences, fears, and desires, and explore ways to support each other through this transition. It's also essential to embark on a journey of self-exploration, reconnecting with your body and finding what pleases you. Whether through solo exploration or with the help of a partner, take the time to discover what feels good and communicate your needs.


Understanding the effects of menopause on sex is just the first step. In the following sections, we will dive deeper into specific strategies and techniques that can help you maintain a satisfying and pleasurable sex life. So, let's embark on this journey together and embrace the pleasure and empowerment that awaits you!


Experimenting with New Positions for Comfort and Pleasure


When it comes to sex after menopause, it's essential to keep the pleasure and intimacy alive by experimenting with new positions that provide comfort and maximize pleasure. As our bodies change during menopause, certain positions may become more comfortable or pleasurable than others. It's all about finding what works best for you and your partner.


One position to try is the spooning position. This position allows for deep penetration while providing a sense of closeness and intimacy. Simply lie on your side, with your partner spooning you from behind. This position allows for easy access to the clitoris, and you can control the depth and speed of penetration. 


Another position to consider is the woman-on-top position. This position gives you complete control over the angle and depth of penetration, allowing you to find the most pleasurable position for your body. It also allows your partner to focus on clitoral stimulation, increasing your chances of reaching orgasm.


If you're experiencing vaginal dryness, try positions that provide extra lubrication. The shower position, for example, allows water to provide natural lubrication and can enhance your comfort and pleasure.


Remember, there's no one-size-fits-all solution for sex after menopause. Explore different positions, listen to your body, and communicate with your partner about what feels good. With experimentation and open-mindedness, you can find new positions that bring comfort and pleasure, making your post-menopausal sex life more enjoyable.


Tips for Purchasing Sex Products as a Menopausal Woman


Finding the right sex products for a menopausal woman can be daunting, but it doesn't have to be! With guidance and knowledge, you can make informed purchasing decisions that enhance your pleasure and comfort. Here are some tips to help you navigate the world of sex products and find the perfect ones for you:

1. Do your research: Before making any purchases, take the time to research different products and read reviews from other menopausal women. Look for products that specifically address the needs and concerns associated with menopause, such as lubricants designed for vaginal dryness or vibrators with gentle settings for sensitive bodies.

2. Prioritize quality and safety: Regarding sex products, quality and safety should always be a top priority. Look for reputable brands that use body-safe materials and adhere to strict manufacturing standards. Check for certifications or labels that indicate the product has been tested for safety. 

3. Consider your preferences: Everyone's preferences are unique, so consider what type of product best suits your needs and desires. Whether it's a lubricant, vibrator, or other sex toys for couples, consider what you find pleasurable and explore options that align with your preferences. 

4. Privacy and discretion: It's essential to feel secure and confident when purchasing sex products. Look for online retailers or stores that prioritize your privacy and offer discreet packaging. Reputable brands understand the importance of discretion and will go the extra mile to ensure your purchase arrives in a discreet and unmarked package.

5. Seek professional advice: If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure about which products to choose, don't hesitate to seek advice from a sexual health professional or a knowledgeable sales associate at a sex shop. They can offer guidance and recommendations based on your specific needs and concerns.

Remember, exploring and experimenting with sex products is all about enhancing your pleasure and enjoyment. Embrace this exciting journey and trust yourself to make choices that empower and satisfy you. 

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FAQ about Sex After Menopause

I’ve always enjoyed sex and worry that my vagina will change after menopause. What changes should I expect?


With menopause, the ovaries stop making estrogen, which can cause your vagina to become dry and less elastic or “stretchy.” Fortunately, low doses of vaginal estrogen therapy can keep the lining of your vagina healthy. For many women, so can the regular use of long-acting vaginal moisturizers when combined with regular vaginal sexual activity. Regular vaginal sexual activity is essential for vaginal health after menopause because it stimulates blood flow, helps keep your vaginal muscles toned, and maintains your vagina’s length and stretchiness.


My sex life was fine until menopause, but I’m not interested anymore. Could the hot flashes be affecting my libido?


Bothersome hot flashes, primarily associated with night sweats and sleep disruption, could affect your sexual interest.  When your overall quality of life is poor, and you’re tired from rustling the covers all night, sleep may take priority over sex. Although hormone therapy (with estrogen or with estrogen plus progestogen) is associated with risks, if the hot flashes are disruptive and other measures are not helpful, the benefits of hormone therapy often outweigh the risks for healthy women in early menopause. Ask your provider whether hormone therapy might make sense for you.


What should a recently divorced postmenopausal woman know about safe sex?


Older age is not a protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs).  If you’re postmenopausal and not using at least a vaginal form of estrogen, your vaginal tissue may be more vulnerable to infection than it was before menopause. It’s easily cured with antibiotics but often goes undiagnosed and untreated and can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease. Gonorrhea is another STI easily treated with antibiotics but may go undetected. Human papillomavirus (HPV), which can cause cervical cancer, is also ubiquitous, but by age 50, many women have already been infected with HPV.


Ideally, you should ask your partner to be tested for STIs before you have sex. Even then, you should use a latex condom or dental dam until you’re sure he or she is disease-free, and your relationship is monogamous (a dental dam is a thin square of latex rubber or silicone placed over the vulva to allow oral stimulation without skin contact or exchange of bodily fluids). Condoms can protect against most, but not all, STIs.


What’s the key ingredient for a great sex life?


There is no one key ingredient; sex is not that simple. However, there are ways to increase your chances of a great sex life. For most of us, these include maintaining a certain level of desire, having that desire satisfied regularly, and being glad that the partner satisfying that desire is the same person every time. A relationship like that requires work and trust. The “key” is for couples to not take each other for granted and get lazy. 


Another “key” to a great sex life is variety and creativity. Even the most sensational activities become routine and stale without a little effort to mix things up.  It’s well worth the effort to develop new ways to express sensuality and sexuality with your partner. That might mean bringing some sex toys into the bedroom or having sex in a different environment, such as in a luxury hotel, on top of the dining room table, or in the backyard under the moonlight. For others, it could mean watching an erotic video together or role-playing your fantasies.


What’s the difference between a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm?


An orgasm is the same regardless of where the stimulation that triggers it comes from.  In general, the clitoris is more sensitive to stimulation than the vagina and can more reliably trigger orgasms when stimulated.  However, in some women, stimulation of the vagina may be more likely to trigger orgasm or lead to stimulation of the clitoris.


Now The Choice is Yours


This was our conclusion on getting the best sex after menopause, a journey that led us from the intricacies of the scissoring position to the next exploration of the socket sex position, showcasing the variety and adaptability of intimacy as couples evolve. Hopefully, you’ll enjoy some of the tips, and now the choice is yours. Talk to your partner about what you both enjoy and feel comfortable doing, ensuring that both of you find satisfaction and comfort in your shared experiences.

Finally, we hope this has been interesting and exciting to read. If you want to add toys or products to spice up your love life, visit us. We guarantee our selection of flavored lubricants and women's vibrators will bring an exciting dimension to trying out the scissoring sex position and preparing for the socket sex position in the bedroom. Feel free to check out our whole online adult store with everything for your sex life.

We'd love to hear your thoughts on our picks, so feel free to leave comments below. We wish you all the best in exploring how to enjoy sex after menopause and encourage you to keep experimenting with different positions, such as the scissoring sex position and looking forward to the socket sex position, to find what works best for you and your partner.


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Camilla Jakobsson

With 30 years of writing experience spanning across multiple niches, my thirst for knowledge knows no bounds. Writing has always been a passion of mine, and I hope one day to become a best-selling author, but for now, my sights are set on the sex industry. I'm grateful to be part of the revolution- to empower women and to free us all from outdated stigmas surrounding female sexual health and desires.

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